Behavior

Why some children are so volatile

Why some children are so volatile

One moment your child is clinging to you at breakfast, with loving arms encircling your neck.  The next moment she screams and smashes the cereal bowl following a simple request to wipe Cheerios off the table.  That same child, who was just doting on you, is now reminding you that you’re the worst parent ever, […]

By April 16, 2014 0 Comments Read More →
Guide for dealing with trauma

Guide for dealing with trauma

The American Psychological Association (APA) has a guide to help foster and adoptive families cope with trauma. The free guide makes it clear that one should begin with the premise that all foster and adopted children have had trauma in their lives. At a minimum they have suffered a great loss, at a maximum they […]

By April 11, 2014 0 Comments Read More →
Relinquishing an adopted son

Relinquishing an adopted son

Adoption is not for the faint of heart. It’s more than hard work helping children who have broken spirits or survival instincts as their primary source of functioning to adapt to a new life and to accept love and affection. It will stretch you to your limits and beyond when the child tests to see […]

By March 21, 2014 0 Comments Read More →

Raising a child with RAD

  The mother of Julia recently wrote a book and an article for a magazine describing her experiences raising her daughter, who she adopted at 8 months from an orphanage in Siberia. Her goal in the article and the second video above is to help convince the Russian government to reopen adoptions to Americans. Her […]

By September 21, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Series about re-homing

Series about re-homing

I don’t believe most people in the US adopt internationally or anywhere for that matter without having the best intentions of loving the child and providing a healthy, happy forever home. But a series of articles by Reuters uncovers a big problem in the adoption world in the US and possibly outside of it. The […]

By September 17, 2013 0 Comments Read More →
Writing tips for your kids

Writing tips for your kids

In France they are extremely strict about handwriting. Children begin learning cursive in kindergarten and are expected to write beautifully. My daughter had some dexterity issues and still struggles to meet the high handwriting standards required by her teachers. Below is a story I found on Specialism, a website dedicated to parents of special needs […]

By December 1, 2012 0 Comments Read More →
Adding a second adopted child

Adding a second adopted child

A few months ago we added a fourth to our family, a wonderful 5-year-old girl who was born in West Africa. While she is adapting well and my oldest enjoys having a sister, we’ve had to deal with a myriad of issues, some of which surprised us. I am sure our experiences are not unique […]

By October 6, 2012 0 Comments Read More →
Help for parents of children with special needs

Help for parents of children with special needs

It is never easy finding the right combination of help for a child with special needs, but when you live abroad, it can be next to impossible. In some countries special needs are ignored, or treatments are years behind current practice. This can lead to extraordinary difficulties for expats who may be forced to uproot […]

By December 29, 2010 0 Comments Read More →
Raising mentally healthy children

Raising mentally healthy children

Adopted or not, there are some things all parents can do to help their children live mentally healthy lives. From Everyday Health: A new Internet poll of 2,000 parents finds that there are some key things you can do to raise a mentally healthy child: First, shower them with love. “Love and affection are the […]

By November 11, 2010 0 Comments Read More →
How do you define nice?

How do you define nice?

Paula O’Laughlin is a Korean adoptee who is the mother of two children, one of whom was adopted from Korea. She has written a post on a topic I have been thinking about for quite a while: How to teach our adopted children that they don’t always have to be “nice.” She gives adoptive parents […]

By October 26, 2010 7 Comments Read More →